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Dear Katrina Marie

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I'm trying to be engaged to a Gemini and I too am a Gemini, but I'm thinking that I may be wasting my time. And I'm not sure if it's me or not.

 

I've been knowing them for five years We've dated off and on but not sex. which is my choice..on my part. Strictly courtship, dinner, gifts and I've paid a couple bills as well .

It's more but that's the basics. It doesn't seem like we're on the same page although I told them back in August that I wanted to be engaged by June and Julu and married a year later.

 

I'm on the verge of just ending it but I wanted to know if I am overreacting or should I give it more time.

 

Signed

Mr. I'm Willing and Ready.

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Dear Mr. I’m Willing and Ready,

Let me start with this: you’re not crazy for wanting clarity. You’re not overreacting for expecting movement in a relationship you’ve been entertaining for five years. And you’re not wrong for wanting what you want.

But let me coach you for a second—not just comfort you. Because there’s something deeper here.

You’ve known this person for five years, and yet you’re still unsure if you’re on the same page. That’s not a red flag—it’s a billboard.

You’ve expressed your intentions—engagement by June/July, marriage in a year—and if after all this time that still hasn’t sparked alignment or action, then you’re not in a relationship, baby… you’re in a romantic standstill.

Also, let’s acknowledge something powerful:

 

You’ve honored your own boundaries—no sex, only courtship. That’s discipline and intention. But paying bills, buying gifts, and continuing to emotionally invest without clear reciprocity? That’s not romance… that’s a silent negotiation where the other party hasn’t signed the contract.

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Now about the Gemini part—let’s not over-spiritualize or horoscope-hop our way out of real accountability. Two Geminis can work, but only if both people are grown, grounded, and emotionally honest. If you're the only one doing the “willing and ready” part, then your zodiac match doesn't matter. Your values aren’t being matched.

So the real question isn’t are you overreacting?
The real question is: How much longer are you willing to wait for someone who still doesn’t know if they want what you already said you’re ready for?

You’re not asking for too much. You’re asking the wrong person.

It’s not about giving it more time—it’s about realizing how much time you’ve already given, and deciding whether this is truly building toward the future you desire… or stalling it.

Love requires alignment, not just affection.

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Rooting for you,

– KatrinaMarie
Your Coach. Your Cupid. Your Companion Connector

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